Couples & Marriage Counselling
Marriage counselling in Singapore
I work with married and unmarried couples in Singapore facing recurring conflict, emotional distance, communication difficulties, trust concerns, or major relationship transitions.
Couples & Marriage counselling in Singapore
Many couples who come to see me are not in crisis. They are caught in a pattern — the same argument that keeps resurfacing, a growing distance that neither person quite knows how to bridge, or a sense that the relationship has changed and they are unsure how to move forward together.
Couples counselling creates a space to examine those patterns — not to assign blame, but to understand what each person is responding to, what keeps the cycle going, and what may need to change.
I work with couples at different stages of a relationship. Some are early in their relationship and want to build a stronger foundation. Others have been together or married for years and are trying to repair what has been lost, or decide what comes next.
What brings couples to counselling
01
Recurring conflict
Arguments that keep returning to the same ground, even after repeated attempts to resolve them.
02
Emotional distance
A growing sense of disconnection — living alongside each other rather than feeling close to one another.
03
Communication breakdown
Conversations that escalate quickly, end in silence, or leave important things unsaid.
04
Trust and repair
Working through infidelity, betrayal or other experiences that have significantly damaged trust.
05
Mismatched expectations
Differences in needs, priorities or expectations about the relationship, family, work or the future.
06
Major transitions
Parenthood, relocation, career changes, loss — or reaching a point where you are unsure what should happen next.
How I work
My approach to couples counselling is structured and assessment-led. I begin by understanding how each partner experiences the relationship, including areas of Chemistry, Compatibility and Commitment, so that we can identify both strengths and where the relationship has become stuck. From there, the work may focus on three areas — Relationship Ability, Relationship Skills and Relationship Knowledge. This can include attachment and family-of-origin patterns, communication and conflict, emotional safety, trust, expectations and the shared direction of the relationship.
I draw on Gottman-informed principles and attachment theory, while tailoring the work to the particular couple. Sessions involve both partners together as well as individual sessions where these are useful.
Sessions are structured but not rigid. I meet with both partners together, and occasionally individually, depending on what the work requires.
Download
Couples & Marriage Counselling Brochure
A concise overview of the counselling process, what to expect, and how to get started. Download and share with your partner before your first session.
Common questions
Do we need to be married to come for couples counselling?
Couples counselling is open to couples at different stages of a relationship — dating, cohabiting, engaged, married, or separated and trying to decide what comes next.
What if one of us is more reluctant than the other?
It is common for partners to come to counselling with different levels of readiness. Both perspectives are given space, and the aim is not to assign blame or decide who is right. A more hesitant partner may become more comfortable once they experience the process and feel that their concerns are being heard.
How many sessions will we need?
The number varies. I usually begin with a structured assessment, including a Chemistry, Compatibility and Commitment questionnaire. From there, we may work on Relationship Ability, Skills and Knowledge, through a combination of individual and couple sessions. The process is tailored to what your relationship needs.
How much does marriage counselling cost in Singapore?
Fees are set by Raffles Specialist Centre. Please contact the clinic directly for current rates. Sessions are available in-person and online.
Is what we discuss confidential?
Yes. All information gathered and discussed is kept confidential, except on two principles: Duty to Warn (where there is a serious risk of harm to yourself or others) and Duty to Inform (where disclosure is required by law).
Can we do sessions online?
Yes. Online sessions are available for couples who prefer them or are unable to attend in person. In-person sessions are recommended at the start of therapy, as the early sessions are important for establishing trust and a strong therapeutic relationship. For Singapore-based clients, online sessions are usually considered after at least six in-person sessions and when attending in person is not reasonably possible. For clients based overseas, online counselling may be offered from the outset.
Where we meet
Raffles Specialist Centre — Shaw Centre
1 Scotts Road #05-01, Singapore 228208
6838 0200
Ready to begin?
The first step is usually the hardest. Get in touch and we can find a time to talk.